When Can You Consider Your Child’s Fear to be Harmful?
27th November 2009 by Bereaved No CommentsMany people, if not all, feel fear one day of their life; the difference between well-adjusted people and those who aren’t is that well changed people know how to use their fears for their benefit. Healthy terrors caution you of things that you should and should not be doing, and prevent you from attempting things that you know will be bad for you. Some experts on humanistic therapy can attest to the fact that most adult phobias started out as childhood fears that were never tackled because they were either ignored or encouraged. Sandtray provides clients an active, nonverbal, indirect, and symbolic experience of rediscovering visions, hopes, and dreams.
Many parents are already aware that there are age apt kinds of fear that children may experience and are not essentially an awful thing, provided of course that children will learn to keep things into viewpoint through the help of parents. For instance, babies experience a stage where they are restless and timid of other people that don’t look familiar to them, toddlers are anxious about the first day of school because they are troubled to be separated from their parents, teenagers are anxious about recognition by their peers, and so on. However, your child should also be outgrowing some kinds of fear as he or she grow up; the problem of phobias begin when parents don’t become aware of or ignore to acknowledge that their children are failing to outgrow age appropriate fears and may even be developing horrific kinds of fears in the process.
As children conquer their fears by phases, they start to get the confidence to venture further out of their comfort zone. Neglecting to tackle these phobias appropriately can cripple your child by not being able to fulfill normal daily functions because of phobia. What’s important is that you are able to ascertain, probably with professional help, whether your child’s phobia is real or just anxiety.
A very valuable way of helping children convey and deal with their phobias is through play therapy. In play therapy, children are allowed to play with a room full of toys or art items, and children often play out their fears through this; for example, children with arachnophobia can imagine or draw big spiders while playing. The amazing element about play therapy is that it lets children finally confront and deal with their fears in their own way and time, and there are activities prepared to help them do just that.
Parents will be familiar with better about games and activities that can help children venture out of their comfort zone gradually; parents can also know more about what else they can do to help their children out. If a child is afraid of the dark, screaming at him and ordering him to bed in a dark room will only aggravate the situation and gather more negative feelings on the experience of sleeping in a dark room instead of explaining the child that there is nothing to be afraid of in the dark. Parents may do some things out of lack of knowledge like ignoring or belittling their child’s fears or upholding the fears by making accommodations for them.
Taking the easy way out will not help your child face his or her fears but would rather aggravate the situation further. Help your child overcome his or her fears so that they will not destroy your child’s regular task especially when they reach adulthood.












































